Signs of Pre-Birth Communication

Okay, let's face the facts about pre-birth communication. It's not scientific. It's not always 100% accurate. And it's definitely not always 100% obvious. Communicating with our unborn babies would be a lot easier if they could just pick up the phone from their little cloud in heaven and say "Hi Mama, I'm a girl. My name is Celestine and I'll be born on April 17th. My favorite color is purple and I'd really like a stuffed koala bear when I get there." But since it isn't quite that easy, we have to rely on our greatest gift -- our Intuition (that and Love Notes from Baby, of course!)

No one can tell you how to best communicate with your baby and I would never presume to tell you how your baby might be communicating with you -- but there are certain signs you can look for.

The most important thing to consider about pre-birth communication is your openess to receive and recognize it. The fact that you're on this website to begin with is a good sign that you're open to the idea that your unborn baby is communicating with you. The biggest obstacle most women face is not trusting in their Intuiton and simply writing off pre-birth communication as pregnancy-induced craziness or just an after-effect of some strange food they ate ('cause, let's face it, we eat some strange things while pregnant!).

The easiest way to get open about pre-birth communication is to simply intend it. Say to yourself or out loud (when no one else is around, of course) "I am open and ready to receive any messages from my baby." Chances are you may feel a shift in energy -- either in the forms of chills, shivers, or whatever. Then just stay aware of any little signs or intuitions that will inevitably come your way.

One of my first signs of pre-birth communication with my son, Finn, were little eye-twinkles in my right eye (okay, my right eye just developed this twitch that came and went every day, but eye-twinkles sounds a lot more romantic that eye-twitches, doesn't it?). I got the intuition that these little eye-twinkles were Finn's way of telling me he was okay and growing just right. These eye-twinkles were important to me because I didn't have them with my first two pregnancies which ended in miscarriages. In my mind, my baby knew I needed some added reassurance that he was doing okay and this was his way of communicating with me. Each time I felt my eye twitch I'd laugh and say "Hi Baby!" Sometimes I would silently ask if the baby was okay and my right eye would let me know right away that he was just fine. I loved those reassuring eye-twinkles and had the hunch that they would disappear after I was able to actually feel my baby moving in my belly. Sure enough, two weeks after I started feeling movement my eye-twinkles disappeared.

Not everyone feels eye-twinkles (I tried googling it and found nothing) but your baby may let you know in subtle other ways that he or she is doing fine. If you notice a thought pop in your head such as "I wonder if that's my baby communicating with me?"associated with some strange sensation or experience just assume YES, IT IS! Once you make the leap of accepting signs and intuitions, the signs will just keep coming even stronger.

Once you are actually able to feel your child's movement in your belly, it's often as simple as just asking for a reassuring kick to get that little sucker dancing like no one's business!

Other indications that your baby is communicating with you may appear in the form of different preferences or different characteristics than you usually have. When I was pregnant I found myself wishing for snow when before I'd always dreaded it. I figured what I was feeling was Finn's wish for snow (he was a winter-baby after all). I also found myself being even more social and outgoing than I usually was, and thought perhaps I was portraying my baby's engaging character (he has proved to be an extremely social baby and toddler!).

One of the easiest and most vivid ways our unborn babies communicate with us is through our dreams. Everyone says that pregnant women have especially vivid dreams -- and perhaps this is because some of those dreams are actually experiences or visitations (and as long as you're not being visited by 9-foot eggplant reminiscent of that night's dinner, visitations can be a lot of fun). I learned my baby's name in a dream, as well as what he looked like. My husband, Graeme, also came to know our son through dreamtime visits. Pay attention to your dreams -- and you might find the ones that feel more like visits from your child are actually just that.

Of course, any skeptic could just say that I was "making it all up" and it was "just in my head." But it doesn't matter what the signs or messages mean to skeptics, all that matter is what they mean to the Mama. I found my signs, dreams, and communications especially clear and vivid and coming from a place of profound love and wisdom -- I can not deny my experiences. So that's my story and I'm sticking to it.

One word of caution when it comes to pre-birth communication -- sometimes our emotional desires can cloud what would otherwise be clear communication. If you're desperately wanting your baby to be a girl, you might miss all the signs pointing to the fact your baby is a boy (even obvious ones like your baby telling you definitively his name is Howard). Gender can be a tricky thing when it comes to prebirth signs. Just keep in mind that whatever gender your baby chooses is the one that will best him or her fulfill his or her life purpose -- and this was probably okay with you way back when you guys made the agreement to be parent and child in the first place.

This is really just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to what are babies are trying to tell us, but my toddler is trying to tell me something (like he wants my attention) so I don't have the time to write the book this subject deserves. If you dare and are willing, you can learn more about pre-birth communication on my new CD coming out soon.

In the meantime, quiet your mind, take some deep breaths, sit back and listen to the soft whispers of your baby deep inside your head and heart.

Oh, and Congratulations, Mama.